Happy New Year my darlings! We made it through 2016 and have seen through another year. It has been a wonderful year for me, that doesn’t mean that it was easy, it was downright tough at times. But when I look at how many bad situations turned into wonderful opportunities and all the things God brought me through – I cannot help but consider it a good year.
Perception is everything. Do remember at this time that your journey is completely unique to you. Look neither left nor right, but focus instead on your own path and consider where you have come from and where you are now. It might not even be visible on the outside- in fact the most significant change is that which occurs inside a person, it cannot be measured by material things but its added in wisdom and knowledge and peace. Well done on all your growth last year, you shall prosper even further in this new year.
This blog has been like a virtual diary for me. I hope that you have enjoyed reading it as much as I have enjoyed writing it. I appreciate you for partaking in my world and I’ve got so many plans for us to get even closer this year. It will be all about working from the inside out and sharing practices to help us accomplish success in health, fitness, and knowledge together. Here is to being the best you in 2017.
Happy New Year x MC
Some seeds fell on footpath and the birds came and ate them. Other seeds fell on shallow soil with underlying rock. Other seeds fell among thorns that chocked them.
Sometimes it hurts to hear the truth. The one we so desperately need but can’t quite come to face ourselves. The truth that lets us know that we are not perfect and reminds us of how much work we still need to do on ourselves. Well, how you react to the truth determines your growth as a person. It is very easy to dismiss other’s opinions of you and I think that it’s quite natural to have a defence up around ourselves, guarding and protecting our vulnerabilities. I think it is essential to block out negative energies and know yourself enough to not require validation from anyone. However, today I want to tap into the power of POSITIVE critiscm. Part of knowing oneself, reflecting and honestly analysing your own behaviour is that you realise the traits you possess – negative and positive. The problem is that we tend to forget in our reflections, how our behaviour affects those around us.
I for one, have a loooong ahem lengthy list of things I need to work on. Most of the things on that list are there because of how they made me feel. How it makes me feel to look back on them as part of my character. They are things I do not want to be embedded in my character, ways I do not want to be described by those that know me. And essentially everything on that list is there because I do not want to be that person. Tonight I had an alternate perspective, I realised that I never think about how my behaviour might have affected someone other than me. How did my decision affect those I had a relationship with? Did I/ have I acknowledged my actions? How do I regain the person’s trust?
Unfortunately for me, these are not not thoughts that occurred to me at the time. Despite my extensive reflections, my constant self-analysis and criticisms, I had forgotten to practice the golden rule and consider others.
When someone quite close to me pointed out that my past actions had hurt them, I was quick to dismiss it. My natural instinct was to deny, deny, deny. It took me a while to actually consider the person’s point and understand it enough to realise that they were right, I had behaved in a hurtful way towards them and had not extended my remorse to them. See the thing about self-reflection is, it’s a wonderful thing for growth and self knowledge, but sometimes it has the danger of putting you in a bubble, where only perhaps you and your sins exist, their might too strong to allow you to focus on anything or anyone else. But one thing I had got from it [reflection] was that they were some traits I had that I did not like and wanted to change.
Hearing someone talk out loud about something you did and how it affected them negatively is quite saddening. I think it’s always hurtful to be labelled in a negative way and that’s why so many of us instinctively react to it by immediately defending ourselves. Because I spend so much time in reflection, I was not surprised to hear that my behaviour had been picked up by my beloved. What caught me is how it made them feel that I had never acknowledged that behaviour and thus how disrespectful I came across to the other person’s feelings. I should have known that my behaviour was hurtful to others and at least acknowledged it. And therein lies my fault. I had not considered her in my change. I had plans to change and had told myself to consider certain decisions beforehand, but I had never once discussed these self realisations with them.
So the lesson here? We should never be afraid to honestly face ourselves in the mirror, and to also consider other’s critiscm of our behaviour. We do not have to accept what other people think but when faced with an unwelcome opinion, we shouldn’t be afraid to consider it as a point of development. It is a good thing to be told where we are lacking sometimes because it gives us the opportunity to grow and develop in that area. And there is always room for growth.
So to anyone who has been in this situation before, always remember that although you can’t change the environment around you, the past or the reaction of others, you can always control your own response. And no matter how bad you might have thought you were, there is always a chance to be better.
Here is to continued growth x MC
Playsuit: Topshop | Shirt: My brother’s | Sunglasses : Ray Ban
I haven’t posted in a while as I delibarately decided to spend some time reflecting. My birthday is coming up soon, and every year I like to take some time to review the year I have had; the highs, lows, the mistakes and most importantly, the lessons. This year has been incredible in every sense of the word. I look back at the challenges that have come my way with immense gratitude. As difficult as those times were, I can now look back on them with appreciation because I realise that they have been important milestones in my development and understanding of life.
I was riding down a long country road the other day, when I realised that everything I consider a mistake or failure has benefited me in some way along the line. EVERY single thing I felt some shame about or like a failure for, has given me something that has enriched my life experience. For example; I always wanted to be a doctor growing up, I studied medical sciences and the first year of medicine with the idea that I would continue on. Then I realised I didn’t want to become a doctor. I wanted to help people but in a different way, so I changed courses halfway through and ended up somewhere completely different. I always felt like studying medical sciences was such a waste of time and that I could have gone straight into what I believed was better suited to me. But the other day it’s like I realised that medical sciences was exactly the right decision for me. I tend to get bored quickly and I need several things to keep me feeling alive, what better complicated and vast and challenging course could I have done that captivated me as medicine did? Nothing. It was exactly the right thing for me, even though it’s not where I ended up.
All of that to say, I appreciate the journey. I have a rough idea of where I would like to end up and might draw several maps to get there but ultimately the lows, the valleys and the little victories along the journey are what make it worthwhile. Learning to trust the process and to fully accept that everything in life is either a blessing or a lesson provides me a wonderful peace of mind. Now I know that even when I am going through difficult times and trials, I will come out better, stronger and much more enriched at the end of it.
I would like you to remember too, that whatever you are going through, no matter how painful or difficult, it’s all working together for your good. Every single thing is teaching you something that will equip you with the tools – mentally, emotionally, physically or spiritually to achieve your destiny. It could be as simple helping someone going through a similar experience in the future but it’s all a valuable part and experience of life.
So let us be content, worry less and believe that everything will work out somehow. Fear gets in the way of so many things, but looking at my mistakes as lessons really allows me to live everyday fearless. I intend on enjoying every part of my journey and I sincerely hope you join me in making the most of it this year. X MC
This is for the dreamers… MC x