Top: PrettyLittleThing | Shorts: Missguided | Heels: New Look | Photography: CHIP
Hi guys, Happy Easter! How are you? It’s been a minute since I posted, actually it has been two months! That is such a long time for me but I have been doing a few things, travelling and thinking about life too.
To summarise, I visited America in February. We went to Atlanta and then spent some time in sunny Florida. It was a wonderful trip, necessary and fulfilling. I came back home in March and since then I have been VEGAN! *Insert scream here* I know right! Can you believe it? I aint even going to Coachella! (Beyhive y’all know 😉 ) But as much as I appreciate Queen B’s talents and influence, I had always planned to go vegan…eventually. I was vegetarian in University for a while and had always planned to go back. It has been four years since then so you can see how long it took me to mentally prepare for a vegan life. But I’m very glad I made the commitment. I can go into more detail about what I’m eating, how the journey’s been and tips on this in another dedicated post – just let me know if you would like that.
This post is more about the culmination of all the thoughts, experiences and lessons over these few months.
Value (n). ‘The importance, worth, or usefulness of something’
Have you considered that who you are now, your desires, your dreams and wishes are linked to your purpose on earth? I’ve gone through a period of deep reflection and found several underlying traits that have been a part of me in one way or another as far back as I can remember. For example, I have always regarded my physical health as important. I can remember thinking I should participate in more sport when I was 12 years old and actually deciding then that I wanted to be a fit individual. That is just one example but there are many other things that have been fundamental to shaping me.
I am learning to hold on more to these things, to realise they are part of my fabric and embrace each one despite of how society perceives them, negatively or positively. In accepting parts of myself, I am beginning to recognise the significance of my being, and finally starting to live on purpose. I will write that again:
‘Live on purpose’.
See I realise that when you discover the wonderful varied creature you are with all your complexities and twists you begin to appreciate and believe in yourself when you realise that there is actually no one else on earth like you. You have been made different for a reason. The difficulty in this time and age is that there is a constant pressure in the background or foreground sometimes to be like everyone else. We have access to each other’s lives like never before, and with that comes the creation of societal ‘standards’ from this herd mentality we have as humans to follow what gathers the most worldly value. An example is social media e.g. Instagram. Bloggers on Instagram fall under certain categories, if you are a fashion blogger – you plan your feed a certain way, take your photos from certain angles and have your makeup a specific way. It’s like there is a grade you have to meet to ‘fit’ into these categories and it’s like what if I don’t? So I don’t get a thousand likes on my photos and I don’t have thousands of followers. Am I doing something wrong? Am I good enough? Am I enough?
You do not realise how easy how easy it is to fall into this trap, until you find that you have forgotten why you started. Who you are, the value of those unique pieces we discussed above that shape the wonderful individual you are. So what do you do when the world doesn’t value you? Should you quit?
Not everyone can be the same. We all have different gifts and it doesn’t mean if you do not look a certain way or do things like the next person you are wrong. Not at all. Even the most celebrated individual had to learn to see themselves for their goodness.
The first step is to accept and recognise your traits. What makes you who you are? Who are you? Your gifts are your God-given compass points that will align you to the path of your dreams and lead you to your purpose. Value everything that makes you who you are.
Love and Light x MC
Dress: Missguided [Buy here]
I believe this is my second post of 2018. How you doing? I’ve made a few changes to the blog as you can see, so let me know how you like it below. I’m so happy to be writing again after so long. You guys know how much of a struggle winter is for me, and it has been. But thankfully I managed to have the opportunity go away in January to celebrate one of my fave’s birthday. If you follow me on social media you will have seen some of the posts I shared while in sunny Spain. (@metiyachique)
How ironic is life. Can you imagine that you can jump on a plane for less than two hours and be somewhere free of these Arctic winds? What a joke. But I am very grateful for it. I had a wonderful time with my girls and it’s amazing what an ocean view and some sunshine can do to clear your mind, because sometimes honestly, it’s like life is so monotonous that I can’t think here, my mind is fully blocked.
Anyway the point of this is to talk about beauty products YAY! Basically what do I use to go from drab to fab in the space of a 2 hour flight? Here are my most trusted holiday goodies which I use to enhance that glow and allow my melanin to pop further.
1. The Body Shop Vitamin C Glow Protect Lotion SPF 30
This is my GO-TO facial moisturiser anytime I am heading to the sun. I’ve been using it for over three years and it never fails to deliver. It has a light consistency which absorbs into the skin without feeling greasy. It does make my skin appear brighter too – perhaps to do with the Vitamin C (my new obsession) which is great for diminishing dark spots and promoting an even skin tone.
2. The Body Shop Shimmering Dry Oil – Honey Bronze
I have shared my love for this product before (here). It is no secret that I am a fan of the statuesque bronze look at all times! I love when skin is radiant and shimmery. Sometimes it takes a while to catch that holiday tan, and this is a great way of faking it before you make it. It is a dry oil so it actually goes into your skin and doesn’t rub off on your clothes. But it gives just enough shimmer to create an even, natural glow. A little goes a long way with this, and I normally just pour some out into a travel bottle for my suitcase.
3. Estée Lauder Double Wear Stay-In-Place Flawless Wear Concealer SPF10
First of all, I keep one of these in rotation at ALL TIMES! This is one of my favourite concealers of ALL time honey! But it deserves a place on this list because it is a holiday beauty saviour. I can literally dab this underneath my eyes, along the bridge of my nose and voila! Natural highlight sorted. The consistency is perfect for the sun, it does not crease and the lighting is perfect. You can wear this on its own too as it contains some SPF and is quite creamy. Have a go and let me know, my shade is 5N.
4. 100% Unrefined Whipped Shea Butter
So this is another one I have raved on about (here). But guys you know when I said sometimes you have to fake it with the bronzer till you make it? Well this is MAKING IT. Using this to moisturise my skin during winter has been a LIFESAVER for me. The dryness of these Arctic winds is not holy. Let me tell you, I needed something strong. What better than this divine gift from the motherland, 100% natural AND fairly traded from Ghana by a Ghanaian queen (Hey Akua!) All her products are amazing, but seriously invest in some shea butter if you care about having healthy, nourished skin all year round. It means less work to do on your hols and soft, glowing skin for you to enjoy all year.
5. MAC Prep + Prime Fix+ Spray
The only thing I regret when it comes to this product – is how LONG it took me to get on it! LISTEN when you see them YouTube girls spraying this thing passionately onto their face like it contains blessings from The Queen of Sheba, it’s because it DOES! What can I say? MAC cosmetics MVP for this one. It is perfect for a natural dewy, everything-set-in-place finish. It helps on holiday when I wear less makeup to just complete and maintain the glow for me.
And there we have it folks! My top five beauty products for those winter escapes to sunshine. I’d love to know what your top holiday products are. Let me know in the comments. I hope you are taking care of yourself and I wish you sunshine from within regardless of the weather outside.
Love and light x MC
Hi guys, I think this is my first post of 2018 so happy New Year! If you follow me on Instagram (@metiyachique) you will see that I’ve been doing quite a bit of Miami reminiscing, of which this post is a result of. My last post was about the highlight of 2017 for me which was my birthday in Miami. That would not have been so awesome had it not been for the perfect venue we stayed in – The Mondrian South Beach Hotel. We didn’t have a huge list of criteria for our stay, but one thing we did want was to stay on South Beach.
When our uber pulled up outside the Mondrian Hotel, the first thing that hit me was luxury. The building is magnificent and has some exquisite details on the outside including pillars, flowered gardens and lots of instagram-worthy greenery. The hotel is conveniently located opposite a Whole Foods Market which was so ideal to grab a green juice in the morning and some lovely natural hair products when needed. It also had a Walmart close by and several cafe’s and restaurants along its street. It’s located about 15 minutes walk from the beach/ Lincoln street which made for the perfect afternoon stroll.
Moving on to the inside – the first thing that grabbed me was the decor. The interiors are very well designed with a huge lobby that provided some chilling space, an indoor bar/restaurant and an exit to the pool area. It had a grand spiral staircase leading up to the floors which was perfect for evening photos in our night gowns. There were three large lifts leading up to the rooms (although one of them was almost always out of service) but we were only on the 5th floor and the packed lifts made for great friend-meeting.
Our room was massive. It had a large private bathroom, with a strong shower that had a full length mirror inside. It was big enough for two to shower together – so quite ideal for couples, if thats your thing 😉 Then there was a little dining table next to a kitchenette with basic facilities – sink, toaster, microwave. The room was beautifully decorated with stunning wallpaper and wall mirrors opposite the beds.
The room had glass sliding doors that led to an outside balcony with the MOST exquisite view! We could see the Biscayne Bay and the Miami Skyline and also look down onto the pool area. This was the best part of the room for me, we would just chill on the balcony and have our breakfast, or do our nails and just relax on our loungers sunbathing. Watching the sunset from here was the most fulfilling experience.
Swimming Pool Area
Finally, the swimming pool area. This is one of the things that the Mondrian Hotel is known for. The pool area is beautiful! There was always a great and lively atmosphere with music playing and a wide choice of seating available. At the weekends there was a pool party which saw several people come by the hotel and a DJ spinning the hottest tracks while we chilled by the pool. IT WAS LIT!
Overall, the customer service was really good and I would definitely return to this hotel again. I recommend it to anyone looking to visit Miami South Beach and would rate it 8/10 of the hotels I’ve stayed in so far. Check it out for yourself on their website and share your thoughts in the comments! x MC
OUTFIT: Missguided | Skin: Bodyshop Bronzer
“If we are going to die, I’d rather die in Miami” – Metiya, A and Sam on Hurricane Irma.
How has 2017 been for you? Mine was epic. I learnt so much about myself and my strength but also my weaknesses. My highlight this year has been something I haven’t actually blogged about. It was my birthday trip to Miami. I’ve been waiting to share this with you for the longest. See ever since I accepted that my September birthday in England is always filled with rain, I’ve been booking a trip outside the UK to celebrate it. This year was no different, me and my girls got ready – the destination was Miami.
everything most things, you are supposed to do in Miami. We woke up at 5pm for all-day breakfast and fresh juices. We met people from all around the world and enjoyed beach days and jolly nights filled with dancing. There was something so liberating about Miami, we were free in every sense of the word.
Visiting the Miami Art District – Wynwood Walls
The picture of the boys has been my screensaver for years- we just randomly found it! Shorts : Missguided | Flat sandals : Similar Aldo
Dress: Missguided | Heels:Similar Public Desire
There were several signs I had in Miami that it was where I was supposed to be. Even when things were not going exactly to plan. The day of my birthday we got up ready to enjoy a boat cruise and toast to another year of life when two of my girlfriends walked into the hotel room looking rather gloomy for a birthday celebration. I was confused and did not understand their expressions. But one of them said to me – ‘Metiya, we are leaving – there is major hurricane on the way to hit this very spot.’ I was in shock to be honest, my girls will tell you I was in straight out denial that this was happening.
The irony. Girl runs away from English weather and rain, only to be hit with a hurricane in Miami! It took a while to dawn on me, but after heading out of our hotel for breakfast and seeing the normally relaxed locals boarding up their properties – we realised it was time to go. We had to leave. I spent my entire birthday on the phone – on hold to our airline, then on hold to our travel agent and by 8pm that night we realised that we would have to make a decision for ourselves because no one seemed to have the information we required. We spent the night in silence in our thoughts and the following morning we were awakened by loud banging on the hotel door as we told there was an evacuation. The mayor had declared a state of emergency and there was to be a mandatory evacuation of South beach.
We did as we were told and I started praying because there were no flights out. We couldn’t find a rental car to drive out and we had just been evacuated from our ‘safe spot’. The night before, my two best friends and I had sat together and had a very honest conversation about our options. We thought about dying on the beach, dying mid-way in the air or dying on the drive out of Miami to some ‘safer’ areas. We realised personally that if we were going to die – it would rather be in the place that brought us so much joy and peace. We did some research and found out our hotel was recently built – it had hurricane proof technology and was secure enough to withstand strong winds. The only issue would be the flooding. We could be trapped for days without water or food. We had to consider our options of survival.
As we waited to check out at the lobby after being kicked out, I wondered what we were going to do. I opened the map app on on my phone and started thinking about where we could go. This was predicted to be a Category 5 hurricane, the strongest the area had seen – Hurricane Irma. I did not tell my family at that time but I did say a prayer with the girls. We decided to head up North, mainland to a spot we hoped would be safer than South Beach. We got there – it was nowhere near as lavish as the 5 star luxury hotel we had been residing in, but it was something – and at that moment it was everything to us. I walked around the beautiful surroundings before lockdown, imagining in my head that the blue sky would be gone, the lovely greenery and flowers would cease to exist and there would be destruction to such a beautiful place. As I walked around, I realised that nothing on earth is perfect. You can find the most perfect place, most beautiful and warm surrounding – but even it will suffer the ugliest turnaround.
I guess I saw then that life is not about finding something perfect – it’s about accepting that everything is flawed and choosing which flaws you would rather live with.
As I was walking around, I noticed a large familiar tree. I stepped closer and realised that it was a Moringa tree! I have a thing for Moringa trees. When I was a kid in Zambia, I was surrounded by them, but did not know what they were at the time. As I grew up in England I got into herbs and began buying Moringa online in University. It was only when I visited Zambia in April this year that I realised that all those trees I had grown up with where actually Moringa trees! All this time I was online searching for something and it was in my childhood home all along. Life is really ironic. But when I stood there, underneath the Moringa Tree in Coral Springs Florida, I realised that this was EXACTLY where I was supposed to be, a sign that God had heard my prayer and allowed us to find safety. And I stopped worrying.
We got on with our hurricane supply shopping and familiarised ourselves with the emergency actions to be taken. We were under a ‘lockdown’ which meant that at a certain time no one was allowed to be outside as it was not safe. We had the news on and watched the weather reporters track Hurricane Irma as it made its way to us. [God bless all the islands that were hit, as you might have seen on the news some places were terribly affected ] So eventually it came, we lost electricity, we were hit by a few tornadoes, the neighbourhood was affected quite badly but ULTIMATELY – we survived! We were fine! None of us were hurt. And I am so grateful to God that he had allowed me to be a survivor.
Despite the hurricane coming on my birthday, it was still the best birthday I have had. I loved Miami and genuinely feel that experience affected me deeply. I made some decisions off the back of it. And one of them was to live life with purpose. It has changed everything.
I don’t know you if you will have read all this. But if you made it to this part, I want to tell you that your life is a gift, you have been created for a special purpose that only you can carry out. There is no need to settle for what anyone else says that you should be or do. Your truth will never leave you, and I hope in 2018 we can both seek our truth and live it out to the full together.
Love and light x MC
Merry Christmas and happy holidays to you! This is a quick post just to thank you x
Dress: MC Chitenge Designs | Photography: Chip
It’s a great time to remember that none of us would have it made here on our own and everything we are today has been made possible by the prayers, support and care of those who have chosen to love us. If you have been one of them for me, thank you so much. I appreciate you more than you know. My prayer and wish is that I can be that person to more people in the coming year. A real lover and giver of love.
Thank you for reading metiyachique this year. It’s definitely been a journey, and it means so much that the thoughts that get me through have been read by so many of you and you have allowed me to not just write for myself but for you too. It’s a serious thing for me and I hope my words have helped you somehow.
I wish you love, joy and peace this christmas. To you and to yours x MC