I cannot serve anyone to the best of my ability without first taking care of me. Initially, I felt some guilt about doing things just for me. But I have gained so much peace and self-knowledge through this process that I now see it as essential.
To measure your value or judge your journey by comparing it to the person next to you is detrimental for your self-worth. We are all in this life journey together, and being able to respect someone else's path without comparing it to your own is one of the biggest self-developments we can make.
I would like you to remember too, that whatever you are going through, no matter how painful or difficult, it's all working together for your good. Every single thing is teaching you something that will utilise you with the tools - mentally, emotionally, physically or spiritually that will enable you to achieve your destiny. Even as simple as one day helping someone going through a similar experience...